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Key to a Lasting Marriage

I've recently tried to help a couple improve their unhappy marriage. I shared my experience and knowledge in basic therapeutic concepts such as the Emotional Bank Account and the Five Love Languages.

The couple understood the concepts but both had the same knockout question: why must I take the initiative?

It was an understandable question since both of them were fed up with each other.

As they were both earnest Christians, I reminded them of their marriage vow and the sanctity of marriage; it was not an option but an obligation for them to do what they can to salvage their marriage.

They finally conceded, looked at each other, and promised to try loving each other more through the new concepts that they'd learnt.

I hope things would eventually work out... Through this brief session, I discovered the key to a lasting marriage - not mumbo-jumbo concepts/techniques but God; take God out of marriage and divorce becomes a tempting option...


"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." (Matt 19:4-6)

"Marriage is an act of will that signifies and involves a mutual gift, which unites the spouses and binds them to their eventual souls, with whom they make up a sole family - a domestic church." - Pope John Paul II (1920-2005) 264th Pope

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Anonymous said…
I truly agree about your comments on that subject and i was happy to find out that other people as well believe that faith to God is essential for a lasting marriage.Although i m single at the time, i m dreaming of a lasting marriage with the God ' s guidance.Really, there' s no other way...

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